A recent visitor to a blog I work on sent an email titled “My Painful External Hemorrhoid Nightmare Story” that was really open and honest. I responded after reading it and asked if it would be okay to write an article based on the information they shared. They said it would be fine as long as I didn’t use their last name.
“Debbie from Cedar Rapids, Iowa” is a single mother of a young child who has to work two low-paying part-time jobs to pay the bills. She always put on her best happy face for her daughter, friends and family. His approach to managing stress was to bottle it up inside and keep all his worries to himself. While her daughter was asleep, Debbie ate a lot of junk food to reduce her stress.
Surprisingly, she was able to maintain an attractive figure without exercising outside of work. His late-night binges on junk food left him chronically constipated. He ignored the first sign of external hemorrhoid formation. After having a bowel movement, he felt what he said felt like a bee sting and felt a small growth as he cleaned himself.
Like many people, he ignored it, thinking it would go away on its own. During the month she had a large bleeding hemorrhoid that could not be ignored. It got so bad that he had to wear spandex shorts under his work uniform to avoid embarrassing blood stains. Itching and pain was constant. Always there to remind him that his condition isn’t going away anytime soon.
The only temporary relief he found was using hemorrhoid creams. The external hemorrhoid was not shrinking because he had left it untreated for too long. His co-workers, friends and family noticed that he now walked differently. It is a very embarrassing life situation to experience in addition to the pain of hemorrhoids. No one wants to tell other people that they are suffering from hemorrhoids.
A logical approach for people is to make a hemorrhoid doctor’s appointment. Debbie had two objections. He was ashamed to go to the doctor and had a phobia of doctors. She had no problem taking her daughter to the doctor, but she had developed a real phobia after having a major panic attack as a patient during a doctor’s appointment.
It had been a year since the big panic attack, but the fear of having another created a phobia of doctors. I understand how he feels because I have a friend with excellent health insurance, but I never go to the doctor unless it’s serious.
They also have a phobia of hospitals and doctors. They once told me that they don’t want to have blood tests or health checks because they don’t want to know if they have a disease like cancer. They think that if they don’t know they have a disease, it doesn’t exist. Avoidance always leads to new health problems. Debbie avoided having her external hemorrhoid removed.
It got to the point where the external hemorrhoid grew larger and became infected. The pain became too much. Infected hemorrhoids cause serious health problems. Her parents had started watching their daughter more and more because of Debbie’s health problem. Not liking what they saw happening to Debbie, they had her see a hemorrhoids doctor.
The mind is powerful. In the waiting room, Debbie had a major panic attack and felt like an elephant was on her chest and a joker face was looking at her. The problem with a panic attack is that the person having it always thinks that all eyes are on them. This increases anxiety levels and the fight-or-flight response to the situation. Debbie wanted to leave right away. Her parents and nurse reassured her.
The doctor explained that she had a severely infected external hemorrhoid that needed laser removal of the hemorrhoids as soon as possible. The word surgery makes every patient’s heart skip a beat. Debbie had no choice. His health was in serious danger due to an infection of hemorrhoids. He made a full recovery from hemorrhoid laser surgery and is back to living a hemorrhoid-free life.
What really touched me about Debbie’s email was that she said straight up that her painful hemorrhoid nightmare finally stopped, but her anxiety and panic attacks are now more frequent. She said she wasn’t going to ignore the condition like she did her external hemorrhoid.